Life

I would be lying if I said I don't think about J's pornography addiction multiple times a day.

But, it hasn't been ever present lately.  I think about it, in passing, but mostly life has been busy and full and good, and I haven't had the time or effort to put in to thinking about addiction.  (Of course, I say that now, and tomorrow I'm gonna be writing about some major blow up or slip up or set back, right?!)

I think I'm making progress.  Or I'm just busy.  I'm not sure.

I did have a couple things 'trigger' some pretty emotional reactions on my part.  (A hasty decision on J's part that cost us a ton of money, and I was angry I hadn't been consulted first -- on one hand, he was just trying to get a project done because he knew how much it was stressing me out, on the other hand, I don't like to be reminded of times where he's made decisions without consulting me because he thinks he knows best (oh, I don't know, something like, "I won't tell HX about this pesky slip up, it's for her own good, she'd just be sad.")  But, they brought about good conversations where we both walked away with a better understanding of where the other person is coming from, and what our expectations in marriage and in each other are.  We are making real progress in our relationship, and on our own. I've got to be a part of two online meetings now, which I've enjoyed (even with the audio problems last time) :-), and J is starting to make more connections in SA -- even staying 30 minutes afterwards hanging out and talking. 

For the most part, it's been a nice little reprieve from the larger drama that this addiction brings in to our lives.  Let's hope it lasts for awhile . . . :-)